tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-64130290094560259282024-02-20T23:50:27.590-05:00Trix BraveheartCurious? Sex in Second Life? Need help with how things work? See the Tutorials here or at Toy Slaves Brothel in Second Life.Trixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00361597950091396701noreply@blogger.comBlogger52125truetag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6413029009456025928.post-10965326904784387142013-06-11T23:48:00.001-04:002013-06-11T23:48:28.302-04:00Catznip 8 Arrives <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">One of the very best Third Party Viewers in Second Life, Catznip, released the version 8 release today and it is GRrrrEAT!</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Oh right that's Frosted Flakes, well Catznip is wonderful and this release prepares for the server side baking we've all been eagerly awaiting.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Read about the release here</span><br />
<a href="http://catznip.com/2013/06/12/catznip-r8-release/" target="_blank"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">http://catznip.com/2013/06/12/catznip-r8-release/</span></a><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">then hurry over to the <a href="http://catznip.com/downloads/" target="_blank">download</a> page</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">You will eventually need a viewer that can handle the new process, I recommend this one, it's <i><b>fast</b></i> and easy to learn, not to even mention some great features you'll only find in Catznip.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">See you in Second Life</span></div>
Trixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00361597950091396701noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6413029009456025928.post-66094166391803415982013-06-06T15:26:00.003-04:002013-06-07T17:34:10.625-04:00Come, See how creative you/we can be<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Second Life needs more than anything someone who will champion what it is doing, someone to shout about the good and interesting things it does...Advertising anyone?<br />
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Here's a recent interview with the current CEO of Linden, the creators of Second Life<br />
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After seeing this video, I was reminded of an interesting piece that Philip Rosedale (the creator and prior CEO of Second Life) did a few years ago. The video covers many things, but, he does talk at length about Second Life. At 10:10, he talks very candidly about getting into Second Life; a bit of the why and the rewards. The whole video is an hour long, I found it interesting and hope you will too.<br />
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If you watched the video and were in trigued, see what Philip Rosedale is working on now<br />
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Trixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00361597950091396701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6413029009456025928.post-80508889231715291162012-08-01T16:17:00.000-04:002012-08-01T16:25:18.071-04:00Project Shining<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I have commented on and follow a Jira (<a href="https://jira.secondlife.com/browse/SH-3025" target="_blank">SH-3025</a> - Multiple tattoo layers will possibly cause avatar texture bake to malfunction) </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">It deals with an avatar rendering problem that is not as well publicized, within Second Life, as it probably should be. It is becoming more common, I think because make-up layers have become quite popular and are on the tattoo layer. The issue arises sometimes - it is very inconsistent and hard to replicate, you can go for weeks without an incident. One of the manifestations only becomes apparent when someone tells you, that you are not rezzing for them yet you look fine to yourself. Often when you sign out, you come back as that lovely incandescent cloud. The fix is incredibly simple... take off the tattoos and put them back on, voila, you're back. There are other indicators, one that you change your outfit but nothing happens for you, others may see you naked, but, your inventory or outfits folder shows you wearing clothing and unable to remove it. If you have suffered that, the tattoo layer may be your culprit.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>Hopefully all of that is about to change.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Just today, Dan Linden commented on that JIRA, directing us to a project in the "secret" Linden Labs, as he put it...some work being done on avatar rendering among other things called <a href="http://community.secondlife.com/t5/Tools-and-Technology/Project-Shining-to-Improve-Avatar-and-Object-Streaming-Speeds/ba-p/1583465" target="_blank">Project Shining </a> </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Pass it on, please pass it on to all of our long suffering comrades, tired of Ruth and the endless list of things that cause us to have to use her.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I don't know how many of <a href="http://blog.nalates.net/2010/09/24/avatar-render-problems-ghost-cloud-smoke-ball-ruth/" target="_blank">Natale's list of reasons</a> and the solutions will become unnecessary, I just hope a lot.</span></div>
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</div>Trixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00361597950091396701noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6413029009456025928.post-40056342060110682902012-07-24T13:27:00.000-04:002012-07-24T13:27:04.474-04:00BDSM - D/s Communication<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I think everyone agrees that communication in a D/s (Dominant/submissive) relationship is desirable. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The company that hosted the video <a href="http://www.behindkink.com/" target="_blank">Kink.com</a> is an online adult entertainment site (you'll see their watermark on the video). They have a behind the scene section and discussion boards that might interest the curious along with live and pay per view fetish videos. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Bo, the presenter here, is a member of <a href="http://www.leatherfamilyonline.com/" target="_blank">Sovereign House</a> a family of BDSM practitioners. They describe themselves this way,</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">"Though our styles vary, our common thread is a strong belief in <b>Safe, Sane </b>and <b>Consensual</b> <b>BDSM </b>and a feeling of <b>responsibility to pass on the skills and lessons</b> we have learned from others."</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The site offers information and education along with the <a href="http://www.leatherfamilyonline.com/2009/leatherfamilyonline.com_BDSM_checklist2009.pdf" target="_blank">Negotiation Forms</a> Bo mentions in his video.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Please enjoy the video</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">One of the biggest challenges the Toy Slaves Brothel Family in Second Life faces is, not surprisingly, communication. Even in an online BDSM family it is important to understand and be sensitive to your partner's likes and dislikes. Try the negotiation forms, you might just learn something new about them.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">See you in Second Life</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The Catznip Viewer is a new addition on the third party viewer (TPV) list. It offers Restrained Love in a viewer modeled closely on the Linden viewer. For new residents of Second Life and those of us who have become accustomed to the Linden Viewer over the more than 2 years of its existence, this is good news.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">It offers an alternative to the Firestorm Viewer and Marine's venerable Restrained Love Viewer, along with others who have offered RLV for varying periods of time.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I've been using Catznip for about 4 months now, yes it was available before being placed on the TPV list and it works great. It became one of the recommended viewers for girls joining the Toy Slaves Brothel (RLV required) approximately 8 weeks ago and has functioned very well.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">There is more to the viewer than just RLV, here's what the developers Kitty Barnett & Trinity Dejavu say about their viewer. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"Catznip aims to refine and reinvent your window into Second Life. Our focus is stability, usability, privacy and plenty of new original home grown features.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">As a project, Catznip is not and will never be a bucket list of features cherry picked from the other projects, nor a laundry list of pre-release Linden code. It’s about taking a fresh look at things and attempting to do them better.We are very open to feature ideas or requests, but please present them in the form of a use case and not simply “Add X from Viewer Y” !"</span></div>
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If you have followed the development of RLVa, you'll recognize Kitty as a developer of the Restrained Love used in many of the Third Party Viewers.</div>
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To read more about Catznip or to download this excellent viewer visit their website </div>
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Here's a short video about installing it. It's easy, no files to transfer over, just download, install and jump into Second Life. It comes with RLVa turned off. All of the viewers excepting Marine's (where it's always on) arrive with Restrained Love turned off. </div>
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To activate it in the viewer go to Preferences (Ctrl+P), when the Preferences window opens choose the side tab labelled Catznip and place a checkmark in the box for RestrainedLove API suppoert (requires restart). The viewer will need to indeed be restarted for RLVa to take effect, so log out and then back in and you'll be in RLVa.</div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Correcting a bad hair day in Second Life may just be easier than in Real Life.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I've created a video to illustrate how to use the edit menu and resizing menu(available in many hairs) to properly fit hair to your avatar in Second Life.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Anyone who has tried to explain how to do this to a new resident using text is sure to understand, I hope this video helps. I hope that people eventually do learn all these things without much help. I would hate to think we lose too many who find it just too hard.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Anyway for what it's worth...</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Oh and for the RL Bad Hair Days, I just wear a hat.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I've been a little lazy in posting to my blog in the last few months. Lots of different reasons that I simply won't bore you with.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Getting back to my original purpose of promoting and informing and training (that might be three purposes) in Second Life, I have decided on starting back up with a new video.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">One perplexing issue that I see over and over again, is residents not wearing their shoes properly. Shoes have evolved from simple objects with feet squeezed into them, blocky SL toes revealed in our open toed sandals, to delicate constructions with beautiful feet and incredibly detailed shoes. Along with these changes came HUDs to do many, many things. Perhaps the most important of these was matching the foot colour in these new shoes to your skin. That was always the early knock on wearing the shoes, however, the creators have become incredibly adept at skin matching offering the ability to make very subtle changes even in some cases including notecards with RGB numbers for the most common skins.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">With all of this, the most common mistake I see new residents make is failing to wear the shoe shape...</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">it's the clothing layer piece that allows your foot to be shaped to fit inside. The video gives more details on how to wear shoes. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I hope to have it make it into a new and updated Quick start video to replace my now outdated walk down memory lane</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I could get distracted and off track here, but, this was to be about shoes and wearing them. I'll save things like my love for the new Catznip viewer for another post. Hopefully it'll come a little sooner.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Here's the video, as always the video is designed to be...</span><br />
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<span data-mce-style="font-family: Verdana,Geneva,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;" style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">Over the course of my time on line I have seen many people come and go from this lifestyle. I have seen people that had to struggle for every ounce of understanding they came by... others who it came quite naturally too. Defining who we are and what we are can only come from deep inside ourselves. This comes from the natural order of self-actualization. We strive for a better understanding of that which motivates us, what we need to survive to find contentment and peace within. What sets us aside from every other person and makes us unique in our own way.</span></div>
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<span data-mce-style="font-family: Verdana,Geneva,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;" style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">The focus today is on the growth of the submissive and finding a way in this vast and not always easily understood lifestyle. I have sat a lot lately thinking about the why's. I have thought about the lessons I have learned along the way on my own journey. What has made me unique in my own way. How I came to the point I am. The hard and sometimes bitter lessons I learned along the way. The tears I have shed. The joys I have shared. The people that have touched my life along the way and the lessons they offered me. I have thought about what they gave me that motivated me to wish to succeed in this lifestyle; to find my own niche so to speak.</span></div>
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<span data-mce-style="font-family: Verdana,Geneva,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;" style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">One of the first lessons I learned was To thy own self be true. What does that mean? When people first come into the lifestyle they aren't sure what it is they are seeking. But usually they find someone they admire and they want to and hope to someday be just like them. They are confused and trying to grapple with the societal norms and mores and values they are leaving behind. To make this lifestyle acceptable to their own conscious. I can remember saying , I can only hope I could become as good a submissive as so and so is someday. In the beginning I stored away so and so's pearls of wisdom. I would refer back to them over and over and try to figure out what she was telling me. I admired her willingness and her ability to submit to one. The manner and grace in which it came to her.</span></div>
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<span data-mce-style="font-family: Verdana,Geneva,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;" style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">Now I am sure some wonder: but how did you get to that point? I had a lot of help along the way. Many Dominants influenced my formation through this time as well as the senior submissives I have known. The hardest lesson I ever had to learn was to be humble. Humble in the aspect of being able to ask for the wisdom and training I needed to become what I am today. To say I don't know how to do this and I need help. To define where I was and where I was going. To define what I was seeking. The most important issue was to define who I was. Independent of any Dominant or male. Its okay to not know in the beginning but you must be honest with yourself and others along the journey.</span></div>
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<span data-mce-style="font-family: Verdana,Geneva,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;" style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">The weak didn't survive in this lifestyle. It isn't for everyone. Very few submissives actually make it in the lifestyle for very long. Many burn out after a few months or a couple years returning to the vanilla life. The ones that burn out are the ones that couldn't seem to follow the rules, are looking for someone to rescue them and take them away , or were just in it for the game. They had a mental block against learning. They couldn't find a Dom that met all their specifications. So they have a history of going through Doms as quickly as they changed their underwear. So the ones that do make it, how did they do it????</span></div>
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<span data-mce-style="font-family: Verdana,Geneva,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;" style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">The ones that make it know what they are looking for. They understand the value of taking care of heart and home first. They understand the value of learning. They understand the value of making themselves available for learning from those that touch their lives. They understand that all learning may not involve a love relationship but a mutual understanding of honesty and respect. They have taken the time to determine what is and is not a priority in their lives. Learning to become and draw out the submissive part of yourself into the wide open is a very mentally taxing journey. BECAUSE it is such a mentally taxing journey you need to keep yourself physically healthy as well as emotionally and mentally. The most important aspect to me always has been honesty in all my affairs.</span></div>
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<span data-mce-style="font-family: Verdana,Geneva,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;" style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">This submissive has set down and taken the time to look at all facets of her personality and her life. She determines what areas need work on. She has determined what it is she is looking for. She knows the profile of the man she responds best too. The sort of man that turns her juices on, so to speak. With this she has come to the understanding that although she may desires the ever after it may not be there. She lives for today and doesn't worry about tomorrow. In other words she doesn't fret over what hasn't happened yet. She knows what she wishes to seek. She may decide she wishes a period in an unattached relationship. She may decide what she wants is to learn, as a submissive. Its doesn't mean that it will stay that way. As she grows in her submission she will determine she needs different things as she grows. That is the natural order of things. She must first determine what she values the most and work from that. She must correct the personality flaws she knows are there with help or alone. She knows she must function from a level of honesty, trust, respect and desire to learn an openness, and being responsible for her own actions.</span></div>
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<span data-mce-style="font-family: Verdana,Geneva,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;" style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">She focuses on being healthy both mentally and physically. This means she eats well, sleeps well, and exercises. She challenges herself. She develops a routine. Arise at the same time. Eat healthy three times a day. Makes sure she exercises at least three times a week. If she is alone (single) she holds a job. She can support herself independently of a man. She knows a Dom will be looking at those things. The giving up of this is by choice not because she has no other option. If she has children she knows they must come first. She has responsibility. She embraces that responsibility and cares for those dependent on her for their own care as a Dom would care for her. She knows a mentally and healthy sub is very important when a Dom is looking you over.</span></div>
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<span data-mce-style="font-family: Verdana,Geneva,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;" style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">They understand the value of learning. They understand the value of making themselves available for learning from those that touch their lives.</span></div>
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<span data-mce-style="font-family: Verdana,Geneva,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;" style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">She does her research. She reads everything she can get her hands on. She increases her knowledge base. She knows a good submissive is intellectual, educated in affairs a Dom may wish to discuss, her manners are perfect, she carries herself with poise and grace. Her walk is elegant. Her reputation is beyond reproach. She functions from a very honest base. She knows how to present herself in social affairs She knows what it means to be the lady. When she comes across someone that could give her good solid advice and expand her knowledge base and her growth as a submissive she welcomes this. She is open to learning. She doesn't look at will this last forever. but I will enjoy this communication for the time that is lasts. I will grow from this. I used to always say I will give anything 3-6 months. The submissive understands good things come slowly to those that wait and have patience. PATIENCE is the key. she also understands she need not have a physical attraction to the one she is learning from but a connection and a desire to learn is uppermost.</span></div>
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<span data-mce-style="font-family: Verdana,Geneva,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;" style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">I have had people that I went too with nothing more than a desire to learn what they had to offer. They had something I wanted. Something I wanted to learn about as a submissive. I valued the time they offered me to teach me. The lessons were many times hard. I cried many tears of not understanding. I hated them at times. I had temper tantrums. I learned to open myself to what they had to teach me. I learned to create a journal and write out what I felt. I learned to be totally honest with my emotions to not hide what was going on inside me... to allow a glimpse of what I was and where I was headed. I learned where my true limits were and weren't. In the beginning I felt I had tons of limits. I learned most of my limits came from my own fear. Fear I couldn't do it or fear how others would look at me if I did that. Once I gave up that fear... away went many limits. Again opening myself to learning and growth as a submissive. I learned to love them and respect them for what they taught me about myself. From this my submission opened and grew. and GREW and GREW!!</span></div>
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<span data-mce-style="font-family: Verdana,Geneva,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;" style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">I have met people I was involved with for understanding and learning. They were not love matches; but we shared a mutual respect for each other. We shared a bond of honesty, trust, commitment to the process of learning. We knew that the time for learning would come to a end at some point. We enjoyed each other for the time we shared. From it gave me different aspects of the lifestyle. I learned many different styles of domination. I learned many different styles of playing. I learned to expand my limits. I learned what I did and did not like in play. I learned where my psychological edges were. The one thing I found was I came to love them... not be in love with them: a big difference. This opens so many doors for you. You over time seek these people out for matters that affect you. You learn to ask them for help. They guide you and you follow that direction. However when its over... and the learning completed they can teach you nothing more (which does happen) she knows when to say its done completed and move on. She parts amicably. NO regrets. NO antagonism. She moves on freely.</span></div>
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<span data-mce-style="font-family: Verdana,Geneva,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;" style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">Learning to become and draw out the submissive part of yourself into the wide open is a very mentally taxing journey. BECAUSE it is such a mentally taxing journey you need to keep yourself physically healthy as well as emotionally and mentally.</span></div>
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<span data-mce-style="font-family: Verdana,Geneva,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;" style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">This is difficult for many people coming into the lifestyle. I know it should be easy but it always isn't. Telling little white lies will destroy you and your reputation within the Community. Sometimes we call this brutal honesty. I am brutal with myself many times. I will however admit I do have periods of denial. BUT it is my attempt to always be honest in my dealings with others. WHICH to me meant when I commit myself to someone as a submissive I stop looking for others. I focus on Master now and what he has to teach me about myself. Believe me anything you do will become common knowledge eventually. You screw someone over and others will find out about it . It's those things they remember. I highly respect the sub or Dom that says I am involved with you but I will continue to look for the perfect partner.</span></div>
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<span data-mce-style="font-family: Verdana,Geneva,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;" style="font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 14px;">This is as I think and feel a submissive should make her/his journey. We all have to have standards which we follow and ones we can live with. We all wish for that perfect Dominant. However we do understand this may be down the road. In the meantime we grasp at the opportunities offered us. We do so in a honest and trustworthy manner. We always keep in mind our reputation and our standing in the community. If you want others around you to admire you and your ability as a submissive you learn how to present yourself to others in the best form. We take care of our priorities and others see this. As a submissive you always have choices... we hope on your journey you make the right choices and you always have the backing of the community in your endeavours. My goal has always been to be the best submissive I could be. I think I am making progress and I am always still learning. There is light at the end of the tunnel.</span></div>
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</div>Trixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00361597950091396701noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6413029009456025928.post-17749266512197907202011-11-25T17:38:00.001-05:002011-11-25T17:59:23.934-05:00Is It BDSM or Abuse?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">She took her concerns to her new Master and he seemed less than sympathetic, instead making it seem like she wasn't committed enough for him. And her questions about some of the things he had proposed doing to her unworthy of his comment. Some of the things she described were alarming, but, who can tell whether they were the posturings of a newbie Master or someone seriously unhinged.</span></div>
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Following some recent events, I had looked into the BDSM vs. Abuse question myself and was able to give her some suggestions on reading material. One of the things was the table I've reproduced below, it was on a website with one of those annoying jiggly "you've just won an ipad, click here" ads that make me want to leave right away before someone gets my info and spams me into next Tuesday. Here's the address, there is more info there...the table is just too good not to pass on. </div>
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<a href="http://www.fortunecity.com/victorian/christy/347/dsnabuse.htm">http://www.fortunecity.com/victorian/christy/347/dsnabuse.htm</a></div>
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Another site that I've found thought provoking and helpful can be found here. Kinkylittlegirl, the author, indicates that the site has morphed from being just about BDSM into one that looks at all types of abuse. The sections on BDSM are full of links to informed and on point commentary on the subject, tables like the one below are not uncommon. Visit her site and read her interesting articles and give the links a close look...</div>
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<a href="http://kinkylittlegirl.wordpress.com/abuse-survivors/">kinkylittlegirl - Abuse</a></div>
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One of her recent posts might give you pause, <a href="http://kinkylittlegirl.wordpress.com/2011/10/04/when-is-abuse-not-abuse/">When is abuse not abuse?</a></div>
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You'll find lots of places to get advice and fetish friendly help on the net. Have a critical eye, but, Read, Read, Read...If you like print, one of the most helpful books out there about all things BDSM and an excellent starting point is Jay Wiseman's SM101, it's available from many booksellers, his publisher's site<a href="http://www.greenerypress.com/">Greenery Press</a> even as an e-book from <a href="http://www.amazon.com/">Amazon</a>. His isn't the only book, but, it opens with some great advice about D/s relationships and emphasizes communication and consent then continues on with some practical advice.</div>
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Help with this issue is available in a number of Discussion Groups inside of Fetlife. You will need to sign up for Fetlife to participate, but, it's free and an excellent source of all things fetish <a href="https://fetlife.com/">FetLife</a>. </div>
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Finally, What has this got to do with Second Life? People visit the BDSM community in Second Life hoping to find something that either enhances their real life or to explore something they feel they are missing or something they are anxious to try. Granted some of the people we meet are strictly here for roleplay, but, if they take their role seriously, we hope that they have some real life experience or at the very least pledge to do no harm.</div>
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We cannot take a cavalier approach to what we do. The avatar opposite has a real live person at the other end. At the very least you might ruin their experience and at the worst you could cause some real psychological harm to an already fragile psyche.</div>
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If you are a submissive in Second Life and you see these things happening to you, protest, ask the abuser to stop. It's your responsibility to yourself. Don't argue with them, they aren't worth the trouble and upset. Unfortunate as it is, in a way you're lucky...you can log off, get out of there and avoid that person in future. Don't feel that you have to put up with abuse, it's not your fault, no matter how much the abuser may want you to think it is.</div>
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<b>A BDSM relationship
starts with a friendship, love and concern. You care for each other's
happiness. All involved will feel good and will be happy, no one is sorry.<o:p></o:p></b></div>
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<b>In an abusive
relationship someone is always sorry, someone is always hurt. The only happiness
is that of the abuser - the abuser cares about their own happiness, and the
victim is most concerned with keeping the abuser happy to avoid more / worse
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<b>Submission is a
gift that is given to the Dominant. The submissive chooses to obey, to give
up control and keep choosing from moment to moment; day to day. The choice
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<b>When the submission
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<b>An abuser forces
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<div style="text-align: left;">
<b>In an Abusive
situation the victim is left hurt either physically or mentally.<o:p></o:p></b></div>
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<div style="text-align: left;">
<b>Most individuals
involved in BDSM will be careful enter a scene without alcohol/drugs or
emotional upset impairing their judgment.<o:p></o:p></b></div>
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</td>
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<div style="text-align: left;">
<b>An abuser isn't
concerned if judgement is impaired by drugs or alcohol or emotional upset.<o:p></o:p></b></div>
</div>
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</tr>
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<div style="text-align: left;">
<b>The submissive is
responsible for her own happiness in life, but during a scene, the
responsibility is the Dominant's. The Dominant teaches the sub to be strong.<o:p></o:p></b></div>
</div>
</td>
<td style="background: red; border-bottom: solid windowtext 3.0pt; border-left: none; border-right: solid windowtext 3.0pt; border-top: none; mso-border-left-alt: solid windowtext 3.0pt; mso-border-top-alt: solid windowtext 3.0pt; padding: .75pt .75pt .75pt .75pt;" valign="top"><div class="MsoNormal">
<div style="text-align: left;">
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</div>
</td>
</tr>
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<div style="text-align: left;">
<b>If humiliation is
involved in a BDSM relationship it is done out of pride - they are proud to
show the sub off in public, proud they are their slut. The sub won't feel bad
about the words and/or actions they will make the sub blush but they are
excited and pleased.<o:p></o:p></b></div>
</div>
</td>
<td style="background: red; border-bottom: solid windowtext 3.0pt; border-left: none; border-right: solid windowtext 3.0pt; border-top: none; mso-border-left-alt: solid windowtext 3.0pt; mso-border-top-alt: solid windowtext 3.0pt; padding: .75pt .75pt .75pt .75pt;" valign="top"><div class="MsoNormal">
<div style="text-align: left;">
<b>In an abusive
relationship the humiliation is done in a degrading manner to make someone
feel worthless so the Abuser can be the number One in the relationship - they
will insult the looks, the way things are performed or do something in public
not for pleasure but to show they are in control. The words or actions hurt.<o:p></o:p></b></div>
</div>
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</tr>
</tbody></table>
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<o:p><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I hope this gets you thinking.</span></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<o:p><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br /></span></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify;">
<o:p><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">See you in Second Life, a place for completely safe and consensual relationships. If only abuse in Real Life was so easy to stop.</span></o:p></div>
</div>
</div>Trixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00361597950091396701noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6413029009456025928.post-60474207411487406622011-11-13T14:52:00.000-05:002011-11-13T14:52:57.769-05:00Marine Kelley's Restrained Love Viewer<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I recently did a post on setting up RLV in Firestorm. Now, for Marine Kelley's original version.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;"></span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">One of the most respected viewers in Second Life is Marine Kelley's RLV. Once used almost exclusively by the D/s community, residents have found lots of ways to use it.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Want to know more about RLV? See my post here...</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><a href="http://trixbraveheart.blogspot.com/2011/05/what-is-restrained-love-restrained-love.html" target="_blank">What is Restrained Love?</a></span><br />
<br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 18px;">Marine's follows the Linden viewer platform. This version includes the very latest user interface changes.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;">I've included the links to the pages used below the video.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;">Go ahead, don't be shy, give it a try.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;"><i>Click the video and watch in full screen and 720p HD for the best experience</i></span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="243" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/nEc4iqafiZg?rel=0&hd=1" width="420"></iframe></span></span><br />
<a href="http://wiki.secondlife.com/wiki/Third_Party_Viewer_Directory" target="_blank">http://wiki.secondlife.com/wiki/Third_Party_Viewer_Directory</a><br />
<a href="http://www.erestraint.com/realrestraint/">http://www.erestraint.com/realrestraint/</a><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 18px;">See you soon in Second Life!</span></span></div>Trixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00361597950091396701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6413029009456025928.post-42237739834500877962011-11-06T01:03:00.001-04:002011-11-06T01:04:11.115-04:00Protect Yourself in Second Life<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If you're in business in Second Life, especially, my kind of business, it's always wise to protect yourself by saving your Chat and IM logs to your computer.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I've posted a video showing how to do it in Firestorm, Restrained Love, the Linden Viewer and Phoenix.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Be careful how you use the logs, they're for your protection and enjoyment. Sharing them with others without their permission is viewed by some as a violation of the Terms of Service.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Why get into the whole debate, be safe rather than sorry...keep them private.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>Click on the video and view it full screen and in HD (720p)</b></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="243" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/VrrrkRwaTZs?rel=0&hd=1" width="420"></iframe></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">See you in Second Life</span></div>Trixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00361597950091396701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6413029009456025928.post-88532627327630145552011-11-03T16:05:00.001-04:002011-11-03T16:11:20.687-04:00Restrained Love in Firestorm<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I've created a new video about RLV, Restrained Love, for Firestorm.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If you are used to using the Linden viewer 2 / 3 platform, the Phoenix team and their V3 Default setting for the viewer makes Firestorm an attractive option. </span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If you are unsure what Restrained Love means, see my blog post here</span><br />
<a href="http://trixbraveheart.blogspot.com/2011/05/what-is-restrained-love-restrained-love.html" target="_blank"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What is Restrained Love (RLV)?</span></a><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br /></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Watch the video for information on where to find Firestorm and then how to activate RLV.</span><br />
<b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">For the best results, open the video and watch in in full screen and HD</span></b><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="243" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/7sIb8U4zaes?rel=0&hd=1" width="420"></iframe></span><br />
<b><br /></b></div>Trixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00361597950091396701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6413029009456025928.post-89514518421779915352011-09-23T15:21:00.000-04:002011-09-23T15:21:22.704-04:00Great News! Firestorm Now Gives Option for V2/3 interface<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Oh my goodness! So much good news, I may just burst.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I downloaded the latest version of the Firestorm viewer, still in beta, but, now enabled for Mesh.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br /></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Besides the Mesh ability (viewers not so enabled do not see objects in mesh properly) the viewer start-up screen now gives the option to mimic V3 (the Linden viewer) or v1 (the old style interface) when you install Firestorm.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If you have been following my posts, you'll know that I created a video recently that illustrated how to make the standard Firestorm viewer look like the Linden Viewer. Happily, those instructions have been made unnecessary by the developers at Firestorm...Bravo!</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br /></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Another piece of news hot off the presses for you viewer 1 people is that Phoenix will have mesh support. The developers at Phoenix correctly give credit to Henri Beauchamp (Cool VL viewer developer) for this development, but, caution that it's akin to ( I love Jessica's metaphor) "putting the diesel engine from a bus into a Ford Pinto". You can read all of her comments on the Phoenix blog. </span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><a href="http://phoenixviewer.blogspot.com/2011/09/whats-this-rumor-about-phoenix-viewer.html">Phoenix Viewer Gets Mesh</a> </span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">It should be required reading for anyone still using the Phoenix viewer.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br /></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">See you in world! maybe more people will be able to see my pretty mesh miniskirt now.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br /></span></div>Trixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00361597950091396701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6413029009456025928.post-82615922367590984442011-08-17T01:46:00.000-04:002011-08-17T01:46:58.765-04:00Color Under Cursor - Finding the RGB Values in Second Life<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I'm sure that I mentioned I had a bunch of things I wanted to add here after my couple of weeks in a funk.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Here's another. I have a number of programs, mostly free, for getting the colours from objects, backgrounds, pages on my screen, you name it. Here's an application inside Second Life, it's not hidden, but, I think a lot of people don't know about it.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">It can be helpful for matching colours in objects that you can modify.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Here's a short video, I've captioned it and also included the script below it.</span><br />
<br />
<br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> <b>Click on it and watch in full screen</b></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="263" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/6e3yeZnS2pg?hd=1" width="410"></iframe></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br /></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">and...here's the script</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"></span><br />
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Here's a neat little trick I use sometimes. It can be great
for finding the RGB values of any object and then matching them. It is
particularly useful for getting close to your skin shade for shoes.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">You'll need the Developer menu to access "Color
Under Cursor"<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">If you don't have it enabled, go to your preferences
and under the Advanced tab check the box to show it. Click okay to save your
new settings.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Now, left click Develop on the Menu and on the first
drop down choose Show info, then on the next drop down select Show color under
cursor.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Once you've done that look in the lower right of the
screen to see the RGB values under wherever your cursor rests (they'll be the
first 3 numbers).<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">When using the numbers for skin shading, I suggest that
you set your sun to midday. Things like full bright settings in the shoes can affect
the result so play around a little, it's worth it once you get them right.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
</div>
Trixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00361597950091396701noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6413029009456025928.post-5740800778390045982011-08-16T03:05:00.000-04:002011-08-16T03:05:46.956-04:00Make Firestorm Look & Feel Like Linden Labs' Viewer 2<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Just my feeling that some of our residents who learned on Viewer 2 might like the magic decoder ring to help them find regular menus and the Sidebar.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Firestorm is an excellent full featured viewer. The viewer has been set with defaults that in a few cases, not many actually, look like the old viewer 1 UI that some of you won't be familiar with. I hope the video helps.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">It is in HD, <b>for best viewing click on it and watch in full screen and set to HD</b></span><br />
<br />
<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="263" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/zH9k0IIXzqc?hd=1" width="410"></iframe><br />
<br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The link to the Phoenix site is...</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><a href="http://www.phoenixviewer.com/">Firestorm Beta Download</a></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br /></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The video is captioned, but, I've included the script here...</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 18px;">The Firestorm viewer is a feature packed user interface
based on the Linden viewer 2.<span> </span>It was
developed by the Phoenix team, one of the most robust third party viewer
providers.<span> </span>Because the viewer is
intended to make the transition from the old style phoenix viewer, it contains
some elements that you may not be familiar with if you currently use Linden's
viewer 2.</span><br />
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">The settings that I'll demonstrate here are only
recommendations. You will no doubt customize the viewer in the future.<span> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">If you haven't already downloaded the viewer, go to </span><a href="http://www.phoenixviewer.com/"><span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%; text-decoration: none; text-underline: none;">http://www.phoenixviewer.com/</span></a><span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;"> and choose the Firestorm
Beta viewer for the platform you use.<span>
</span>Once you install it, we will make some changes.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">On the bottom bar there are a number of icons that we
can remove.<span> </span>The viewer comes without a
sidebar as the default.<span> </span>Later, we'll
learn how to choose a sidebar version.<span>
</span>What you take out of the bottom bar is up to you, I've removed a few
things that are either repeated in the sidebar or on the top bar or seldom
used.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">The old viewer one interface used a pie menu and that
menu comes as the default in Firestorm.<span> </span>The
pie menu does not exist in viewer 2, we'll learn how to change it.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Go to the Avatar (Me) menu item on the top bar, click
and from the dropdown menu choose Preferences.<span>
</span>Now let's begin...<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Under the general tab will set the away timeout to
"never" and turn off UI Hints. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">On the next tab "Chat" we'll turn off the
typing animation and set chat to begin when we press letter keys. Turn on Group
Chat pop ups if you follow any groups.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">In Sound & Media, I turn off sounds, strictly a
personal preference, not a recommendation. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">In Network and Cache you can increase your bandwidth,
if you have a strong connection. this is where you can modify the location of
your chat logs, if you wish.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">I like to use the arrow keys for movement, they're set
in the Move & View tab.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">In the Privacy tab you can set the viewer to save your
chat and IM. Showing favourite LMs at login can be useful if you have favourite
locations set up in landmarks. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">I sometimes use the Developer and Advanced menus, they
are set under the Advanced tab<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Next we'll get rid of that pesky pie menu under the UI
Extras and at the same time have the script dialogs stay where we're used to
them by turning off the option to see them in the upper right<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Now to get the Sidebar back...open the Skins tab and
choose a skin with Side Tabs<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Only if you use RLV, you'll see an option under the
Firestorm tab to "Allow remote scripted viewer controls(RLVa)" make
sure it is checked. The same option is also available under the Advanced menu,
both do the same thing.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: "Verdana","sans-serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; line-height: 115%;">Many of the changes we've made require a viewer
restart, so click Apply then OK and log out. When you log back in the changes
will be in effect.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<br />
<br />
<br /></div>
Trixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00361597950091396701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6413029009456025928.post-47228365459774546392011-08-15T10:22:00.001-04:002011-08-15T10:28:33.709-04:00Of SLCC 2011 - Second Life Community Conference<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I'm baaaaack, so many things I want to write about. The next 3 posts should follow quickly... first the conference, more accurately, my own choice for best presentation.</span><br />
<div>
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br /></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Drum roll...the award goes to Aliza Sherman (cybergrrloh in Second Life) for a very upbeat presentation focusing, among other things, on what we can do to encourage new participation in Second Life.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Compared to numerous other presentations, where we heard the litany of what needs to be done, what has been done and believe it or not more whinging about the sidebar...please people just learn to use the new UI, Aliza's commentary provided practical suggestions for connecting with people, potential new users, out of world. Her overview of new apps and tried and true technologies available to connect with others is a must see for anyone with a business in Second Life or for just anyone who wants our community to grow.</span></div>
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Trixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00361597950091396701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6413029009456025928.post-48298356696500037312011-07-23T13:15:00.003-04:002011-07-23T13:22:47.334-04:00The Chickens Come Home to Roost<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, sans-serif; line-height: 18px;">First, thank You Jessica Lyon. This is an excellent article describing how to work around the permissions "bug". </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, sans-serif; line-height: 18px;">Basically what happened was that a number of the TPV, almost all, responded to the Second Life community's loud groan when Linden deployed their new web profiles by using something more like the old profiles.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, sans-serif; line-height: 18px;">There are definitely some issues with web profiles, but, their purpose was to give SL a higher profile and that can't be all bad. They do load more slowly and they take up an inordinate amount of screen space, however, like all of the changes over the last year, you become accustomed to them relatively quickly. It is a pain for club owners and managers who often quickly scan a profile to learn more about their customers' likes, dislikes, wants and needs.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, sans-serif; line-height: 18px;">The solution to the permissions"bug" is to go to the online web profile and change the permissions there. It's not hard to do.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', Trebuchet, sans-serif; line-height: 18px;">Jessica does an excellent job of explaining how to find them and what to do once you're there.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">By Jessica Lyon<br /><br /><br />There have been more than enough reports from SL users to justify a blog post informing everyone of this new server bug and how to work around it. It was discovered by one of our support people on an RC region and reported to LL on the 9th of July, it was acknowledged by LL on July 12th but by then it was too late to stop the roll out onto the main grid.<br style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" /><br style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" /><b style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">The Bug</b><br style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" />You can no longer change permissions for your friends while on a viewer which doesn't utilize Web Profiles and whether you are, or are not on a viewer that uses web profiles the friend you are changing permissions for needs to relog after you have set the permissions through their web profile. I am assured by LL that they intend to resolve this issue as soon as possible but at this time they cannot provide a date when the fix will be rolled out. You can read the Jira report about the bug here<a href="https://jira.secondlife.com/browse/SVC-7104" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: underline;">https://jira.secondlife.com/browse/SVC-7104</a><br style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" /><b style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><br style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" /></b><br style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" /><b style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">The Work Around</b><br style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" />In the meantime, there is a work around. First, you must open the "Web" profile of the person you wish to change permissions for. This includes Map rights, Modify my objects permissions and Online status permissions.<br style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" />1. Open the web profile of the person you wish to change permissions for using the following URL in your web browser.<a href="http://my.secondlife.com/firstname.lastname" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: underline;">http://my.secondlife.com/firstname.lastname</a>. Replace the first name and last name with the persons first and last name. If they do not have a visible last name do<a href="http://my.secondlife.com/firstname%20" style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: underline;">http://my.secondlife.com/firstname</a>instead.<br style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" />2. Once you have their profile open, click on the "ACTIONS" button near the top and to the right, then choose "Permissions" from the sub menu.<br style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" />3. Give or remove the permissions you wish to change and click "Save".<br style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" />4. Now the person you've changed the permission for will need to relog in order for them to actually get the permission change.<br style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" /><br style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" />OR<br style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" /><br style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" />If you just want to remove all permissions for a friend to default, you can just remove them from your friend list and re add them.<br style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" /><br style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" />I hope this helps folks at least understand the bug and how to work around it. Lets hope LL can get the fix out soon!<br style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" /><br style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" />Jessica Lyon<br style="border-bottom-width: 0px; border-color: initial; border-left-width: 0px; border-right-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-top-width: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" />The Phoenix Viewer Project</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Thank you again, Jessica! Wonderful post.</span></div>Trixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00361597950091396701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6413029009456025928.post-640856539032024852011-07-21T18:07:00.001-04:002011-07-21T18:08:54.119-04:00This is Second Life<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">There is a constant debate in Second Life and sometimes outside of it about what Second Life is. It is a difficult place to describe because it includes so much.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">For some it is a social network, for others a place to practice building, others still use it for commerce and creativity.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Personally, after nearly 3 years in Second Life I like to think I use it to one degree or another for all of these things. I have friends in Second Life, many are now Real Life friends. I could couch surf my way around the globe relying on the people I've met on every continent for a place to sleep. It is truly a marvelous place; safe, secure, diverse and just soooo much fun.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">It's a challenge to show the quality of the graphics, but, I think this video does as good a job as I've seen.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">You can be who you want to be in Second Life</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Come in, give it a try...I think you'll like it</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>Click the video, enlarge it and play in full HD </b></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> (finally)</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What an incredible breath of fresh air. Gone is the age verification system that had people from all over the world sending passport, driver's license and SSN information for verification...yea!</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">To replace it a new age verification process, and this may sound familiar, you enter your date of birth, check a box verifying that it is true, then submit.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Yes, just that simple.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Go to your Dashboard, you'll find it under the Me menu, then Account and on that drop-down(mine always seems to be open to Account) choose Age Verification. There you'll find the boxes to enter your date of birth. If you have already given this information to Linden at some point, the boxes will be already filled in, mine were, then, put a checkmark in the box verifying that the information is true and submit.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Submitting this information is the first step, now go to your Preferences in the viewer (Ctrl+P) or (Me menu, Preferences, General) and change your preferences to allow you to view all content (General, Moderate and Adult).</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">So, there you are. If you've avoided checking out the incredible part of Second Life that is Adult because you were concerned about giving your private information...that bar has been lifted.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">See you in Second life! </span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I'm sometimes asked about emoting by new girls in the brothel. These are usually questions from girl new to Second Life and to the world of erotic chat. That tells me that emoting isn't really that hard. It's only the initial attempts that make girls uncomfortable. After a while, they become quite adept, after all, if you work in a Second Life Brothel greeting and dancing for customers hour after hour, how can you avoid it.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">My first piece of advice for really new residents to Second Life is to simply describe what your avatar is doing in the onscreen animation. For a pole dancer this is easy, the moves range from hanging upside down to perching high up on the pole to swinging around the pole and just about anything else you can imagine in between. Almost as a warm up, I begin a routine on the pole by wrapping my leg around the tall, hard pole and spinning quickly (or slowly) around it. What could be simpler?</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">After you have described what you are doing, next, describe how it feels. Something like, Trix shivers as the cold pole splits her cheeks. Make these sexy, make them fun. It's a simple add-on to the description, just imagine what it would feel like to grind back nearly naked into a cold hard pole with your heated sex, and describe it.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">And lastly, interact with your customers, you're there for them, hoping that they enjoy your work and thank you in a financial way. Smile, wink, and talk to them.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Roleplay or Emoting Sex Scenes, whatever you choose to call it, is very much like collaborating on an erotic story with a partner. Some participate more than others, some hardly at all. Whomever, you are interacting with, your story will always have a beginning (foreplay) a middle (any combination of fellatio, vaginal sex, anal sex, whipping, confinement, domination, submission or just plain straight sex) and an end (climax or orgasm).</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">This so much resembles an erotic story, because it is one...played out with the pictures and animations on the screen. Sex scenes, like dancing, are describing what you are doing, how it feels and interacting with your partner. The words and experiences you are describing are simply more physical and collaborative.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I sometimes refer girls who are having difficulty with this story writing aspect to the thousands of erotic stories available on the web. There are some very imaginative writers out there who describe a myriad of scenes, fetishes and situations. You are looking to these stories more for their erotic descriptions than anything else, but, they might give you ideas about scenes as well.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The two most common sites I direct girls to are:</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><a href="http://www.asstr.org/">Alt Sex Stories Text Repository</a> </span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><a href="http://www.literotica.com/">Literotica.com</a></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">both, are well indexed and searchable.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> All of our participants are over 18 years old with a healthy imagination so with a little priming of the pump, they quickly blossom into incredible emoters. Most don't need much help, but, we're always there with suggestions, like these links, if they do. Sex in Second Life is better because of the pictures, the action plays out on the screen in an incredibly erotic fashion, so come in and try it, I think you'll like it.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">And, for our girls, Practice, Practice Practice...you know you love it.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">There are a surprising number of new residents who go into Appearance mode in order to change clothing. Each time I see someone do this, I just want to shout out how much more easily they could do it from their inventory. If someone has a comment about why they are using the Appearance editor, I'd love to hear it. The best I've been able to come up with on my own is that the Linden "outfits" are stored under that tab and if those outfits are all that you've got when you start, it seems logical to change there. Any suggestions?</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I'm posting my video about wear vs. add in the hope that it helps.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>Wear</b>, replaces what you are currently wearing on that layer or attachment point (in the Kirsten's viewer, she's actually used the word "replace" in the menu, in place of "wear").</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>Add</b>, adds it over top or to the same attachment point.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The video below explains</span></div>
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<b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Please click on the video and watch it in HD and full screen for the best experience</span></b></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Hope that helped...especially the shoe form (clothing layer) part. <i>Don't go out without it.</i></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I've also included Torley's video on the sidebar appearance menu.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If you were confused about this, I hope this helped.</span></div>
</div>Trixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00361597950091396701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6413029009456025928.post-70079894623118304242011-06-25T03:50:00.000-04:002011-06-25T03:50:41.958-04:00samantha's Journey - Discover Your Inner Submissive<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>Not Just Any Neko</b></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I blog a little about the Brothel and what we do there. It is after all what I do, who I am, I suppose. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If you've followed many of my posts, you will have seen some videos about the process our girls go through to become a Toy.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I have to admit that I'm put to shame by the lovely writing style of one of our recent submissives. She tells a compelling story of her journey, the ups and downs of the life she is exploring and hopes to become a part of.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Just between you and me, I think she'll do very well.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Please read her account here.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><a href="http://notjustanyneko.wordpress.com/">Not Just Any Neko</a></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I hope you will continue to follow her journey, I know I will.</span></div>
</div>Trixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00361597950091396701noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6413029009456025928.post-12854544446622269262011-06-24T15:06:00.000-04:002011-06-24T15:06:25.770-04:00Toy Training - Secondlife - Toy Slaves Brothel Wiki<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I've been off and on, over the last couple of weeks, working on the wiki.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><a href="http://sltsb.wikia.com/wiki/Toy_Training">Toy Training - Secondlife - Toy Slaves Brothel Wiki</a></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Here's my first Training Page post. The site is very much a work in progress, isn't that the definition of wiki? Now here's the post...</span></div>
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and the pages after it will make your experience with us more interactive. We
get between 4 and 10 new girls accessing training everyday, weekends are
particularly busy, Going through the process seems a little daunting at first,
but hopefully being able to access the training materials while outside of Toys
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Wiki, yes...isn't it great...Our Wiki, you'll find the same information
available in world. You will still need to be in world to actually use the mock
up of the club found in Portal 1. Also necessary to complete are the physical
challenges in Portal 2 and learning to use the equipment available in Portal 4.
We've included the information from the notecards for all the training portals
in the wiki. Our hope is that this will give you time to review these at a more
leisurely pace. I joined Toys nearly 3 years ago and while the process was
different back then, there was still the excitement of joining this new
adventure and every delay, every notecard seemed only to keep me from meeting
that goal. No wonder then, that girls rush through them missing important
information.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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place. You will need the link you received in the training portal to access,
the pages beyond this one. To start, here's the So you Want to be a Toy Slave
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your Comment[<a href="http://sltsb.wikia.com/wiki/Secondlife_-_Toy_Slaves_Brothel_Wiki:Community_portal">[1]</a>]
about the experience; some suggestions for what you might include are:<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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comments<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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suggestions of things you might say, we welcome any comment...positive or
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</div>Trixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00361597950091396701noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6413029009456025928.post-14677773300349340242011-06-18T16:26:00.000-04:002011-06-18T16:26:02.011-04:00Jennnna Jameson / Second Life Porn Star/Producer/Director<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">When I first joined Second Life, there were two default avatars, the boy next door and the girl next door. If ever you hear someone in world say they been "Ruthed" they are referring to this default avatar. Before you ask, I have no idea how the name came about. Being Ruthed means you have been taken back to the default avatar, it is also a way to correct errors when you load. Thank goodness most people never experience it, but, I have helped girls to recover from it on occasion. </span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">While it was traumatic for them, no real life therapy was required in any of the cases.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Linden Labs has gone a long way since those early days to improve the avatar choice and now there are many many choices. But still, one of the first things people want to do is modify their look and that is my jumping off point for this post.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Jennnnna Jameson, now known in SL as Emanuelle Jameson (we won't get into it right now) is a respected voice in the porn community in Second Life. You'll find her blog filled with commentary and links to some of the best available erotic machinima. Don't let the blonde hair fool you Jennnnna is one sharp lady.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Madame Aprille has allowed Emanuelle (<i>me going PC, sorry</i>) to film on some of Toy Slaves play areas. The results have been incredible. One, that we are most proud of at the Brothel, can be found below.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If you are a new resident to Second Life or just contemplating joining our little world and want to see what can be done with your avatar, check out Jennnna's blog.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><a href="http://jennnnnajameson.blogspot.com/">Jennnnna Jameson's Blog</a></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">and, here is one of her films, <b>La Cagna Ricca</b>...<b> </b>Don't worry it's in English</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Second Life avatars come in all forms, shapes and sizes, but, I have to admit the number of beautiful people found in Second Life outstrips Hollywood, Monaco, Brazil and Australia combined. But then, those places don't have Furries, Aliens, Vampires and Anime, do they? </span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Come visit us in Second Life, it's free to join and so much fun!</span></div>
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